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Paul Sardi 1958 - 1981

Paul Sardi of New Haven, New Haven County, Connecticut United States was born on June 29, 1958 in Cheltenham, Gloucestershire County England. Paul was baptized in 1958. He was the father of Kristen Lee Kenny. Paul Sardi died at age 22 years old on April 25, 1981 at Boulevard Exit off I-95 in New Haven, New Haven County, and was buried on April 29, 1981 at Kings Highway Cemetery in Milford.
Paul Sardi
New Haven, New Haven County, Connecticut United States
June 29, 1958
Cheltenham, Gloucestershire County, England
April 25, 1981
Boulevard Exit off I-95 in New Haven, New Haven County, Connecticut, United States
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Paul Sardi's History: 1958 - 1981

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  • Introduction

    Paul was a fun person with an amazing personality. He enjoyed living life fully, and was a great brother and friend to many of his classmates and acquaintances.
  • 06/29
    1958

    Birthday

    June 29, 1958
    Birthdate
    Cheltenham, Gloucestershire County England
    Birthplace
  • Ethnicity & Family History

    Paul was born in Cheltenham, England. His mother was English and his father, Hungarian.
  • Nationality & Locations

    Paul grew up in Milford, CT, and lived locally his entire life.
  • Early Life & Education

    Paul graduated from Lenox Avenue School in 1972, and from Jonathan Law High School in 1976. He later attended Southern Connecticut State University for Art courses.
  • 1958

    Baptism

    1958
    Baptism date
    Unknown
    Place of worship
  • Religious Beliefs

    Although raised Christian, Paul changed his views later in his short life. He did not consider himself religious.
  • Military Service

    Paul did not serve in the military.
  • Professional Career

    Paul was a chef, and then a welder, although he was talented in many areas and aspired to be an artist for the Walt Disney Company.
  • Personal Life & Family

    Paul attained the rank of Life in the Boy Scouts while part of Troop 71. He was active in many school athletic programs, played baseball at several league levels, was excellent at chess, and was honored by many scholarly awards such as membership in the National Junior Honor Society. He was chosen to participate in Boys State for the State of Connecticut.
  • 04/25
    1981

    Death

    April 25, 1981
    Death date
    Injuries sustained in a motorcycle accident
    Cause of death
    Boulevard Exit off I-95 in New Haven, New Haven County, Connecticut United States
    Death location
  • 04/29
    1981

    Gravesite & Burial

    April 29, 1981
    Funeral date
    Kings Highway Cemetery in Milford, New Haven County, Connecticut United States
    Burial location
  • Obituary

    SARDI, PAUL -- In New Haven, April 25, 1981, Paul Sardi of 73 Loomis St., Devon, devoted father of Kristen Lee Sardi and beloved son of George and Sheila Herbert Sardi of Milford and brother of Stephen, Richard, Andrew, and Miss Julia Sardi, all of Milford. Friends are invited to attend the funeral on Wednesday at 8:15 a.m. from the Gregory F. Doyle Funeral Home, 291 Bridgeport Ave., Devon and in St. Ann's Church at 9 a.m. with a Mass of Christian Burial. Interment in Kings Highway Cemetery, Milford. Friends may call Tuesday from 3 to 5 and 7 to 9 p.m. Sardi was born in Cheltenham, England and had been a Milford resident for 19 years. He was a 1976 cum laude graduate of Jonathan Law High School. He was a member of the school's honor society, chess, wrestling, soccer and track team, a Connecticut State Scholar, and was featured in Who's Who of America High School Students. He had also received awards in art and sculptures. Survivors include a daughter, Miss Kristen Lee Sardi of Bridgeport; his parents, George and Sheila Herbert Sardi, of Milford; three brothers, Stephen G. Sardi, Richard E. Sardi and Andrew J. Sardi; a sister, Miss Julia G. Sardi all of Milford; and his maternal grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Richard Herbert of London, England. Services will take place Wednesday at 8:15 a.m. in the Gregory F. Doyle Funeral Home, 291 Bridgeport Avenue, Devon, and at 9 o'clock in St. Ann's Church, Devon. Burial will be in Kings Highway Cemetery. {Transcribed *directly* from the Bridgeport Post newspaper announcement --sic }
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48 Memories, Stories & Photos about Paul

In the late 1960's, Paul and I both needed bicycles to get around in our lives. It was a bigger need back then -- today, most families have more than one car -- but for our family, there was only the one car, and my father took it to work every day. Without a bike, we couldn't do much.

Paul went to a bicycle store and brought home a brochure showing his perfect bike: a yellow 10-speed Schwinn Continental. It was his dream, but the price was steep: $115 -- a huge amount for a 10-year old. The same purchase today (in 2024) would be nearly $1000. But he had his heart set on it, and he started saving every dime. Despite no encouragement or help at all, he somehow managed to save it up and went back to the store to buy it.

I never saw a person more proud of something he had worked so hard to earn. He rode it for years, until he finally got a car and the bike was less useful. But, he was so proud of that bike, and took such good care of it.

After Paul died, my younger brother got the bike -- and years later, I saw it in his basement. My parents wouldn't have seen any value in keeping it.

Seeing it reminded me of how very proud I was of his achievement, and how much it meant to him. They went everywhere together, and when he was coming home from work at night in the summer, I could hear the 'tick tick tick' of the gears while he was coasting down Loomis Street, getting ready to park the bike in our garage.

The bike looked lonely. I'm not sure what came of it since then, but it meant so much in such a short life.
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What wonderful memories - and so well written. Thank you so much for sharing the life of your brother.
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Thanks, Kathy. I have many unique memories, and I didn't want to think he would be completely forgotten.
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Good night ...and Good-bye
When we were younger, Paul and I never said 'good night' to each other. Night times were busy with doing homework, working on hobbies, listening to albums, etc., and usually we were up until 2am just lying in bed and relaxing, knowing we were both there for the night. I don't recall ever making a concerted effort to 'call it a night' and say good night, specifically.

When you are young, the days go by and you don't think like adults might. I thought my brother would be there forever, so the formalities of being an adult never sunk in. The problem is -- I still think of him being out there, somewhere -- with the hopes of being able to say good-bye, finally.

The end was so quick, I can't remember specifics of the day -- it's all hazy now. But even though I was at the wake and funeral -- to me, he is still alive and well, somewhere out there. In my opinion, there is no such thing as closure. One minute he was here, and then -- he was not.

I keep visualizing him walking up to my house and ringing the doorbell -- with that great smile and wavy brown hair. He would be angry with me for something, but then, he would let it go (as he always did) and we would be friends again. We would start up again as if nothing ever happened.

I know others out there must feel the same way I do. I understand people mourning, not being able to put losses like this behind them. I won't ever be able to, since I keep seeing him as I knew him - he is a part of me that still lives on, ready to enjoy life again, doing whatever we could together for fun. I still hear his voice and have the expectancy that we will meet again.

I wish I had one last day with him. We would do things together all day, and at the end of the day, I would finally say good-bye to him, and tell him that I loved him, and loved having him as my brother and friend. He would laugh at me, and call me an idiot (as he would when I waved to him when he was standing with his friends, and I was passing by -- but I would know he did that just to let me know he saw and acknowledged me).

So, dear reader -- value what you have in your life. Say good night to those you love, and if you are lucky, you will have the chance to say good-bye as well when their (or your) time comes.
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Paul Sardi in Halloween costume
Paul Sardi in Halloween costume
Paul and I decided to dress up for Halloween. I'm not sure what he was supposed to be, but it was a scary look for sure.
Date & Place: in Milford, New Haven County, Connecticut 06460, United States
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Looks like a vampire! My absolute favorite Halloween costume I wore for many years growing up.
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Paul Sardi in Halloween costume
Paul Sardi in Halloween costume
Paul loved having fun. He wanted his costume to be very scary so he did the makeup himself. When little kids saw him and were afraid, it made him laugh so much.
Date & Place: in Milford, New Haven County, Connecticut 06460, United States
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Paul used to 'scare' me when we were kids growing up together. The fun for him was in scaring, then breaking out into laughter that showed where his interests really were -- getting others to laugh with him (which I definitely did!). He did it to me occasionally, and especially if he knew tensions were really high in the house.

I have an early memory of going out trick or treating with Paul in our neighborhood. We had just moved in and couldn't go very far by ourselves, so we just went to some of the nearby houses. I can still remember his walking slightly ahead of me, leading the way, with our costumes making weird noises as we walked along the nighttime roads that were still not familiar to either of us.

I'm glad to see this picture. He was fascinated by horror and monster stories, so this falls very neatly into who he was even as he grew up. Thank you for sharing this great pic!
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Dreams
My brother and I would share our dreams, especially if they seemed funny, or if something unusual happened in them. But mostly, they were wishful thinking on our part about what our futures held, things we eventually hoped we would own, or places we might visit that we had learned about in school.

We learned about the Caribbean, the deep blue waters, the white sands -- and the pirate's treasure we were sure we would find if only we could get there. Our interest was heightened when we learned that Charles Island, off the coast of Milford, CT, had been a stopping point for Blackbeard and that he may have buried treasure there, according to local legend.

My brother had a dream about how one day, when he got older, he would buy Charles Island -- and he and I would go out there and find the treasure we were sure was hidden there. In his dream, he told me, the evidence was there because he found a sand dollar seashell at Silver Sands, the nearby beach. I was so caught up in his dream that I felt sure he HAD to be right, and I looked forward to it eventually happening.

Of course, that could not happen. The legends were real, but we didn't stand a chance of finding anything, not even the sand dollar shell that are native to tropical waters.

Charles Island has an interesting feature -- at low tide, there is a tombolo (sandbar) that allows people to walk over to the island and stay for a short while until the tide starts coming in again. We knew about this, but it's hard to be an explorer when your life is tied up in school and work. Although I've walked there in recent years, Paul and I never did, so the best he could do was admire the island from afar -- and settle for dreams of pirate gold.

I don't know if we perceive when our last days and nights are upon us. I can only hope that the night before he died, my brother had a dream where his wishes came true -- where he found the buried treasure, and enjoyed the rest of his life knowing he had achieved a great accomplishment.

As an adult, I've been to where he and I dreamed of going -- it is as beautiful as we both imagined. The palm trees, the white sand, the blue water -- all there. I hope his dreams that night -- April 24, 1981 -- matched the reality of the beautiful things he missed out on.

During one of my trips there, I found his sand dollar on the beach -- and thought of him. Wherever he is, I hope his dreams come true.
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To anyone in the future who might read this -- you might wonder, why am I writing about my brother this way?

We were never a close family, but among us, I was closest to Paul. He and I did everything together, so I experienced much of what he did and knew his thoughts and feelings. I don't see any other way for the world to know who this young man was. And, even though this is on the internet, who knows who will ever read it -- but it makes me feel better to know that at least some aspects of his life won't be forgotten forever.

The day Paul died was a sunny April Saturday. Earlier that day, my father-in-law had asked me to help him install a range hood. I told him I expected to be at their house by around 2pm. But, my wife Dawn and I were running late, and we didn't actually get started to go there until about 2:30. I went out to my car and opened the hatchback to put my toolbox in, not noticing anything unusual.

We got in the car and started driving, but at 2:30, the car filled with the intense sweet smell of flowers -- like being in a room filled with thousands of blooms. I immediately pulled over -- thinking 'What is THAT?'. I got out thinking maybe I had lost a hose and the radiator fluid was leaking onto the engine -- the only thing I could think of with a sweet smell. But outside the car, nothing was wrong. The smell completely passed in a few minutes.

We continued to our destination and completed the job, and got back home that afternoon around 4 pm. The phone rang -- it was my youngest brother telling me that Paul had died in a motorcycle accident. I asked what time, and he told me 2:30.

Since then, I have seen this as a sign that Paul wanted me to know what had happened in his final moments.

Before he died, Paul had gotten a divorce. He needed a place to live, so he approached my parents asking them if he could move back into the house they owned. They told him no. With nowhere else to go, Paul rented a backroom in a house somewhere in New Haven. He was working two jobs to make ends meet. He was alone.

It says in his obit that his address was Loomis Street. That is not correct -- he was not welcome to move back in there, into basically a big empty house.

If he had, he might still be with us today, but my parents were not inclined to help their male children. We were on our own.

I am not a religious person, but I believe somehow Paul wanted me to know what he was going through in his final moments. My wife experienced the same event the way I did, so I know I wasn't imagining things. Even almost 40 years later, this all sticks in my mind. Along with the great memories are the sadness of what might have been had decisions been made just a little bit differently.
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